What to Do When Changes Happen

Change can be a good thing or a bad thing. It depends on how we perceive and accept changes in our lives that makes all the difference. Change is a part of being alive and knowing that, it can either evoke fear, acceptance, sense of adventure and a lot more feelings we don’t even have names for.

The first thing to do is to accept the change. Most changes that happen to us are beyond our control. You know what I mean — disasters, death of loved ones, unexpected setbacks, deteriorating health, etc. In my case, which is very common, I instantly became a parent. I’m already nearing my 40s and being a parent is not my priority although most people are (people dreaming of having kids). But I am grateful that my partner is and because of him, I am able to experience what it feels like to become a mom. I welcomed that beautiful change and embraced it with an open heart and mind.

Along the way, we just learn to let go of what happened. We keep our heads high and move forward because no matter what we do, life goes on. Lingering on something that is not helpful will only stop us from being better versions of ourselves. Not being able to adapt to changes will stop our growth as individuals. What to do then? We don’t stop the change but we immerse ourselves in it and enjoy the ride. After all, how can we stop the change if it’s unexpected? We just let it be.

The good thing about changes is that we are never alone to handle it. If you are, it is perfectly fine to feel vulnerable and worried but not to the point that you give in to self-pity. Yes, it takes some time to adapt to changes and it is perfectly normal to feel that way. We are just human so we feel and experience things and the like. Another takeaway for experiencing changes is the learning we get from it, which makes us stronger than before.

“And once the storm is over, you won’t remember how you made it through, how you managed to survive. You won’t even be sure, whether the storm is really over. But one thing is certain. When you come out of the storm, you won’t be the same person who walked in. That’s what this storm’s all about.” – Haruki Murakami 

I’d like to think that experiencing change is magic and opportunity rolled into one. It may be tragic at first but we can let it have a sweet ending. It is when we realize that change is a wonderful gift and that it is one of the constant things the world has to offer.  🙂

Who’s Your PH Presidentiable this 2016?

Binay. Duterte. Poe. Roxas. Santiago. They’re all willing to serve the Philippines and who doesn’t? Who wouldn’t want to have the most powerful seat in the country? But the question is, who is best suited for this critical position? The choice that we make today will have an effect 5 to 10 years down the road. Are we going to vote without thinking? The decision, of course, is up to us. And if we fail to vote wisely, the country will always be in turmoil… as always.

As a Filipino, I lost enthusiasm over this election thingy. It seems like no matter what I do or no matter what we do, it would take much time before curing the diseases that plagued our country. And now what, there’s vote buying everywhere so what’s the sense of voting? Am I just going to vote again just to practice my right to vote or am I going to vote because of  my country’s future? Is there still hope? No one knows but we can give our country a chance by choosing someone who cares for the country like a mother cares for her children.

Since I am not much into the election, I decided to look on the performance of each candidate and how long have they held their positions well. Time may not be everything or it may not be the essence or measurement of performance but if a politician has been a public servant for so long, chances are he is capable (although it doesn’t apply to all).

Of all the candidates, I am torn between Santiago and Duterte. These two candidates have already earned their rights as real public servants serving the country for so long. The other contenders are also veteran politicians but I believe that it is high time for these two to hold the presidential post. Whether or not Binay, Poe and Roxas will win, it is obvious that they can still do what they do best by serving the country in their own ways. They could be assigned to other government agencies and sectors and can run for president in the next 6 years.

It’s just that in my own opinion, it is an opportune time for Duterte or Santiago to run to become the next Philippine president. Some people would want to vote Santiago but due to her health reasons, they opted not to. The thing is, even if she’s sick, she’s still the responsible servant that she is and for those wondering if sickness will take over, while it might, it will take several years down the road. Or, by that time, she’s already back to normal. After all, she’s doing everything to regain her health. I don’t think Santiago will jeopardize our country’s well being — she’s on top of her game every single time.

Besides, of all the senators in the country, it is a well known fact that Santiago has passed the most number of bills which means that Philippines can expect changes from her. Otherwise, the Filipino people wouldn’t re-elect her to be senator for the past years. Miriam magic or not, if we want to get things done, I’m sure, Santiago will come to the rescue.

Best of luck, Philippines!

I Wish to Change

~ I wish to change the world but then I remember that I have to change myself first. Change the bad in me — the unstable mindset and attitude and other unlikely things that have a bad effect. Change is crucial if we want to expect a different outcome. Only then we could say that we somehow left our ‘comfort zones’ if we give in to change. – Bliss Steps