I’m Broke But I’m Not Broken

Yep, you read that right. I am broke but I am not broken. I am broke in the financial sense of the word. Though I am born with food, shelter and clothing, I am broke but I must say I am still lucky. Oh, by the way, I am living on a day to day or week by week basis. I would find ways to earn just so my family and I can eat for a day or a week. It seems abnormal to me before until this abnormal thing became the most normal thing to me now.

I am lucky enough to be still breathing up to this day, as cliché as that may sound. For many years, I’m finding it hard to make ends meet. I am not saying this for you to pity me but I am inspiring you that broke people can be happy. Broke people are just broke and that’s just it. It took me years of practice to train my mind not to get affected by shitty people, unfathomable government, bad economy or whatever the fuck you want to name it.

It all boils down to our philosophy and the way we perceive things. The way we react to what happens to us is of paramount importance, too. Case in point, bad things happen mostly because we allow them to happen. Though at times it is not our fault, it is still our fault if we let the odds or the stress affect us. And, that’s the same with money. Yes, we are broke but we can just thicken our face and tell ourselves that this stage will soon be over. We can make it because we really can make it. We can do this because keeping our heads above the water is the only option there is.

It is not wishful thinking to be thinking this way. It’s just my way of thinking that I always tell myself that I will survive. I have to because I have a family to feed aside from the anaconda in my belly. It came to a point where I don’t want to eat anymore because I will end up hungry anyway. I bet many people can relate to this esp. the ones who live in a third world country. I am with all these people who live for their families, who still choose to live even if they don’t want to, who choose to work tirelessly and who choose to keep breathing until they reach their dreams.

To you reading this, if you are not broke, congratulations. You are one of the luckiest people in the world and I hope you share that “luck” if you ever believe in luck but I know that you know what I mean.

To the peeps who are like me, well, being broke rocks. Being broke sucks but then again, we always survive. So I guess, we can say that we too, are one of the luckiest people in the world. 😀

Why I Don’t Believe In Resolutions

First, let’s be clear on what a resolution is. A resolution is firm decision about something that we do not want to do (and vice versa, but mostly the former definition is the most popular). I, for a living example, would be telling myself that I’d never be late again, ever. Did it happen? Was I able to change my situation after that creating that resolution? If you think I was able to change for the better after that, you are wrong. I did not and it has gotten worst after that. I won’t, I will not, I will never, what the ****? What’s the resolution anyway?

Note: In my own context for this post, resolution is referred to as the I-will-not-do-this kind of thing.

Now, what is a goal? A goal is a result that we wanted, the outcome that we expect to happen and for me, it is more realistic because it comes with a deadline. While a goal is hard to achieve and can put pressure to any state that we are in, it pushes us to become better. What is the point of setting something that you want to achieve and then you don’t know when do you want to achieve it? Even if you are telling yourself that you’d get it in a year, it would seem like you are procrastinating and having some excuses. If it does not happen this year, you would tell yourself that you can make it happen next year. See, that is resolution. A resolution is not clearly defined like a goal. That is why New Year’s resolutions never end! We just have to break the resolution cycle!

If a goal is not achieved after the set date, then you’ve got to try again and you must not stop until you reach your goal. In my opinion, it is more achievable that way rather than falling into the trap of resolutions. We are going to say that we won’t do this and that and then after some time, we caught ourselves saying, “Omg, I did it again.” Well, that’s just an opinion but that kind of thinking stops us from being the productive persons that we are. Would you rather have more resolutions than goals? Would you rather believe in the power of I-won’t-do-this than the power of I-will-do-this on this date no matter what? What do you think is more feasible?

I am not saying that creating resolutions is a bad thing. If it worked for you, then proceed and do what applies more to you. From my experience, I’ve been dumbfounded with creating resolutions. I am left with my list never cleared. My resolutions remained as resolutions and I just felt bad about it. If we are feeling bad at some things in general, would it give justice if we just let it go? And so I did. I have let go of the numerous resolutions I have made — those countless resolutions that are put into paper but never put into reality.

Besides, most successful people say that to be able to achieve your dreams, you must achieve your goals first. After all, goals are nearer to dreams compared to resolutions. For evidence, please confirm and consult Mr. Webster. Have a great 2014 everyone!

P.S. We do not need to set many goals at once. Having set little goals that are always achieved is key rather than a bulk of resolutions that are going nowhere. It would not hurt to prepare a bucket list and do what’s in it before you kick your bucket for good! 🙂

Learning to Cross the River

This is me crossing the raging waters in Mt. Sicapoo for the very first time.  I am a newbie that time and climbing a mountain with a 9/9 difficulty rate is indeed a miracle for me. I am humbled by the whole experience, knowing that it is not an easy feat. Of all the mountains I have climbed to date, Mt. Sicapoo is the most slippery. I do not have the confidence and strength to pursue the climb. The weakling in me feels so strong and I felt like giving up. But then I gave it a shot and I have learned to relax when faced with a difficult situation. The rest after this adventure is history.

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If we compare climbing a steep mountain to life, we would notice that getting to the top (destination/summit) is difficult especially the journey (river crossings, trails, etc.). Life is never easy but if we hold on, focus, strive harder and believe that we could surpass the challenges thrown upon us, we really could do it and we would get what we wanted. It is not just crossing the river that I have learned but also crossing the different paths the world is offering to us. While the journey is always hard, getting to the destination makes the experience worthwhile.

* Daily Prompt: Learning Style