Why You Should Keep Going

 

Nothing in life is permanent except change. Everything comes and goes. If that’s a fact, then it is enough consolation to keep going, no matter what stage of life we are in. We all know that nothing is certain, so I hope you can add this to your many reasons on why you should keep going.

You think you are not good and you think you will just fail. Who knows, tomorrow is your lucky day or you’ll make it to be your lucky day! Keep going.

You have no confidence. The great thing is, you can practice to be confident about yourself. Practice takes time but you can do it. Keep going.

You are not happy with your current life and relationships. You can make things better for you and for them. Take note, it just takes time. Keep going.

You’re back to square one. Well, you can always start again and again, even if it’s fucking hard. Starting from scratch will be your talent in no time. Keep going.

You failed and failed and failed. So what? You’re just human and you can always try. Keep going.

You want to give up for good. Please don’t do it because you have gone this far. Will you waste your precious time for the many years of your hard work? Keep going.

There are lots of other reasons and dilemmas you will face. But one thing is for sure, you should keep going. Life ends, when we stop doing what we should be doing and when we give up for no good reason at all. 🙂

What’s done is done. What’s gone is gone. One of life’s lessons is always moving on. It’s okay to look back to see how far you’ve come but keep moving forward.

– Roy T. Bennett

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Why You Should Be in Control of Your Moods

The idea that the weather and people’s moods are connected is quite old. Do you agree? If yes, how does the weather affect your mood? – The Daily Post 

For ages, it’s been known that weather affects our moods and it’s always a hearsay. “Is there a truth to this,” you might ask. According to the plethora of articles in the net, yes and no. But then who cares? Take this for example, what if you are a writer, you woke on the wrong side of the bed, you woke up sick plus the weather is gloomy? To make things worse, you woke up with flu  and you feel sluggish. Then, a strong brush of typhoon wind has touched your dry face. Whoa, what a combo you got there! Is that one recipe for a bad mood? What do you think? 😀

Now, let me tell you the stories of my friends whom I know always have bad days. So, A works at a faraway place and her travel time everyday is between 2 to 3 hours, going to work and getting back home. That is a total of 4 to 6 hours! She’s underpaid and works for about 10 to 12 hours! Sometimes, even more! Mind you, the salary is so meager that even undergraduates would not want even a piece of her technical job! She is the breadwinner of her family and sometimes she regrets not having enough time for herself.

Enter B. B is a father of 3 kids, and a father of another 2 kids outside marriage. That’s a total of 5 kids! Having 5 kids these days is a disaster unless you have the means to give them a good life. Sounds normal, but what’s tormenting is that when all these kids were born, several close people of B got sick and died. He also lost his business and some partners who owed him money didn’t pay him back. He also lost his dad and now, he also sends money for his mom’s monthly medication and money to send his siblings to school.  These stories, I guess, were more than bad weathers but bad cases and very common, too.

I asked both friends if weather had affected their moods and they said, “NO.” Is it because they’re used to it or they just chose not to be affected? According to the both of them, weather can somehow affect our moods but what really affects us is the way we think about the situation.  I definitely agree.

A weather may be a good one and a place may be so wonderful, but it is what we do to what happens to us define the moment. Even if it’s a beautiful, autumn day and you won the lottery, none of it seems to matter if you choose your mood to be a bad one. Too bad, a day is wasted before you even get to start it. And, when we are feeling bad, we get to do bad things we don’t even want to do!

“When you’re in bad mood, you find jerk on anywhere.” ― Toba Beta, My Ancestor Was an Ancient Astronaut

Thus, my conclusion is this:

We must be in control of our moods, or else our moods will control us. We cannot control the weather but we can control our moods. Knowing that fact, isn’t it wonderful that we have a choice? Let’s choose the good one.

* Daily Prompt: Climate Control

Why You Should Find Time to Do What You Love

We are all busy. We all get overwhelmed at one point or another. We have lots of things to do and even if we prioritize, chances are, it looks like time is never enough. True, but we could always find time to what we love if we really want to. For me, I always find time to write (blog, journal and snail mail). I do this before sleeping or upon waking up for at least 5 to 15 minutes. At least, I have 15 happiest minutes of my life before the day ends! 😀

Writing, like any other passion and hobby, takes time and dedication. Be it dancing, gardening, fencing, skydiving or whatever you think you would do, it’s going to take a bit of your time if not too much. But this is the only moment where time stops. This is the time when you feel very fearless because you are in your own element. You are doing what you love the most and you deserve it. You deserve good times in this lifetime.

Parents and people who dedicated their time taking care of other people can have an excuse to this. But if you’re doing otherwise, basically there’s no excuse not to do what you love doing. Life is too short to be stuck in something that you don’t like to do. Having a work that you don’t love but gives you money is another story but most people do it to survive. However, if you can have the work of your dreams, go ahead and take it. If it’s hard to find, do something to achieve it and be open to other stuff as well.

At the end of the day, we all feel tired and used up. But if we do what we do best which is also the one thing that we like doing, we’d feel fulfilled even when we’re exhausted to death. Remember, one of the good ways to be fulfilled and happy is to do what you love. We are still alive so the good thing is, we still have this wonderful chance to do what we love doing. Let us not miss this wonderful chance.

If we don’t find time to do what we love, we will never find it. 🙂

“Life will always get busy, make time to do the things you love.” ― Lailah Gifty Akita, Beautiful Quotes

5 Writing Tips: Be Like the Ants When It Comes to Writing

What is the correlation of ants to writing? An insect is very different to a craft, a hobby or a living – which is writing. Ants are akin to science and many topics have been written about it. In this post, I discuss the connection of the two.

1. Ants hoard foods. We could hoard topics, keywords, tips and ideas, just like writing prompts (see Daily Post and Plinky). All of these will come in handy when the inspiration to write strikes. But what about if there is no inspiration? Then, it leads you to the ant writing tip #2.

2. Ants keep trying. It is normal to have written untitled and unfinished posts, stories, essays or whatever. What’s important is you keep on writing and trying until you find your voice/niche to write and get your creative juices flowing. Being a writer is not easy, even if you are freelancing. What more if it is your full-time job? If it is your job, you should possess the ant characteristic in ant writing tip #3. At least, even a bit.

3. Ants are industrious. They are never lazy. As a writer, one can never be lazy especially if the post is informative and needs critical information and research. It won’t hurt to do some research before putting your written words out there. The information reflected in your writing must be (well, at least) correct and accurate if not near to perfect. No one is perfect but information must be captured well so as not to miseducate your audience.

4. Ants are busy. Was there a time where you remember so well that ants are idle? As humans, we have an excuse to be idle. But, when we start to write, it is better to keep our minds busy than idle the whole time. Taking a hiatus from writing, of course, is a different story.

5. Ants help each other. They motivate each other and they value team work. I have observed the ants in our garden and they greet and help each other carry the load of their fellows. Help is everywhere. We could always ask our friends to give honest feedbacks about what we have written. All we need is to open our minds, always practice and have ample patience until we get the writing done.  Eventually, it will lead to a bit of improvement and good results.

So, be like the ants when it comes to writing and never ever quit.

If I Could Be You and You Could Be Me in One Day

In response to Daily Prompt: Freaky Friday.

Invincible.

No, what I mean is invisible. If I am invisible, I can be somewhat invincible. If I can be someone else for a day, I would still choose to be my invisible self. A part of me wants to secretly help people but I do not want them to know it is me. Altruism kicks in and my inner Santa would be able to help those who are in need. It is my form of giving back since I am also a person who needs help. If my answer is not valid because my invisible self is my own person, then I would like to be…

How about becoming the president of United States of America or the prime minister of Japan?  Being a president or prime minister is tough and a part of me tells me that I am tough — I have to believe it or else I’d stay a weakling for life!  Although I am not inclined to politics, I love the thrill and burden of being a real life superhero even for a day. I would not deny that I want to experience what power is like and how it feels to be an influential person. If you are wondering why I chose USA or Japan to fulfill my dream of becoming a politician for a day, I guess you know the answer. It is a no brainer that USA and Japan play a big role to the global economy and other things that concerns the world. No one can deny how powerful these countries are, especially the leaders whose decisions can affect billions of people all over the world. Imagine the adrenaline rush (headaches and lots of pain) and experience of running a country where one action from you can either make or break the world. If I performed well, a great change will happen but let us not talk about world peace because it is too tough to solve it in one day.

It would not hurt too, if the president and prime minister of the said countries would try to become me for a day. Why? So that they would experience that being ME is not easy, as well as being other people.  It never is and never will be considering the fact that every person is experiencing a battle within and we all share different adversities and trials that make the Earth heavier than its normal weight. I hope they would feel how hard it is for us to become spectators because we are the jury by default. We do not want to believe in false hopes and expect a change that will never happen. By understanding how hard it is to become each other’s own persons, it somehow gives justice to the casualties inflicted in each and everyone of us.

Game changer. Risk taker. Mover and shaker. Could all these be me?

Conclusion:

I guess I will just continue my dream of becoming an influential person by becoming a writer. I am hoping that through my words, some souls would be enlightened to do the same. And, by becoming the person we always wanted to be, we become invincible in our own right.

 

The Lurker’s List of Lists

In Response to: Daily Prompt: The Satisfaction of a List.

My Dearest Readers,

Others may find lists boring and tedious, but I find it amusing and delightful! My blog is all about lists, listing everything I find interesting or whatever captures my fancy that day. It also contains some rants minus rumination of the things we do not like to hear. As much as I want to list everything, I do list stuff that would somehow make us see the positivity rather than the negativity we always see around us (we all have our own share of shits, I know). I hope you get inspired to create your own lists and educate others through listing stuff. I started creating my About and Bucket List, just to name a few.

Another advantage of creating lists is that we get to have more ideas — not to mention the trivia and new information it gives us. The lists that are created as you go along with your writing will help you write more about a certain topic because you were able to have a draft that is created through your list (and you are not even aware of it)! How cool is that?!

So, what’s your list? Feel free to post your urls on the comment text areas. I would love to read your lists! Cheers! 🙂

Yours truly,

The Lurker

P.S. One of my favorite is this list that looks like a story. Rather than have it bulleted, I just elaborated the list through telling a story about what happened to me that day. Very simple yet touching. Well, I hope so. 🙂