What to Do When Changes Happen

Change can be a good thing or a bad thing. It depends on how we perceive and accept changes in our lives that makes all the difference. Change is a part of being alive and knowing that, it can either evoke fear, acceptance, sense of adventure and a lot more feelings we don’t even have names for.

The first thing to do is to accept the change. Most changes that happen to us are beyond our control. You know what I mean — disasters, death of loved ones, unexpected setbacks, deteriorating health, etc. In my case, which is very common, I instantly became a parent. I’m already nearing my 40s and being a parent is not my priority although most people are (people dreaming of having kids). But I am grateful that my partner is and because of him, I am able to experience what it feels like to become a mom. I welcomed that beautiful change and embraced it with an open heart and mind.

Along the way, we just learn to let go of what happened. We keep our heads high and move forward because no matter what we do, life goes on. Lingering on something that is not helpful will only stop us from being better versions of ourselves. Not being able to adapt to changes will stop our growth as individuals. What to do then? We don’t stop the change but we immerse ourselves in it and enjoy the ride. After all, how can we stop the change if it’s unexpected? We just let it be.

The good thing about changes is that we are never alone to handle it. If you are, it is perfectly fine to feel vulnerable and worried but not to the point that you give in to self-pity. Yes, it takes some time to adapt to changes and it is perfectly normal to feel that way. We are just human so we feel and experience things and the like. Another takeaway for experiencing changes is the learning we get from it, which makes us stronger than before.

“And once the storm is over, you won’t remember how you made it through, how you managed to survive. You won’t even be sure, whether the storm is really over. But one thing is certain. When you come out of the storm, you won’t be the same person who walked in. That’s what this storm’s all about.” – Haruki Murakami 

I’d like to think that experiencing change is magic and opportunity rolled into one. It may be tragic at first but we can let it have a sweet ending. It is when we realize that change is a wonderful gift and that it is one of the constant things the world has to offer.  🙂

Sometimes We Just Have to Trust Again

If you’ve been one of those people who have been wronged several times, would you still believe in the word trust? Would you still give it a chance or give yourself a chance to trust again? It all depends on the current situation and people involved, as every person has a distinct perspective on any given situation.

Perhaps you’ve been cheated on and your partner did it again and again. Most people won’t trust again after they gave several chances, which is also the same for business partners, after they’ve partnered with a business partner who’s a total wreck.

And there is also another kind of trust where faith simply begins. If you believe in God, that’s where you believe that what you ask for in prayer will be given to you. Another example of trust is having faith that your partner won’t waste the chance you’ve given him/her and that he/she won’t take you for granted ever again.

Trusting yourself that you can do a hard thing even if you feel weak and hopeless is helpful. You owe it to yourself because you can always make things happen. And to make things happen, you have to trust yourself first even for the nth time.

Another good thing to do is to trust that miracles will happen. Miracles are always happening, we just don’t always see it because some mundane stuff are masked in roadblocks and hardships. And what about the unexpected blessings that we don’t ask for but we receive?

Sometimes we just have to trust again and see where it leads. Who knows, there’d be magic waiting to unfold. If all else fails, at least you gave yourself the chance to trust again for one last time. No regrets. 🙂



It’s been awhile since my last post and share, so let the passion begin now. This short poem is dedicated to all lovers, parents and most especially to soon to be parents. 🙂

Constellations above are watching over us

While you and me are faraway

Shining with love that is built to last

Brighter than anything in the milky way.

And then we both succumb

To our eternal burning fire

A magic fruit in the womb

Created with an ardent desire.







Finding Your Sanctuary

Many people are eager to make this world a better place and are hopeful to make a difference. I am one of the few who are just getting by, living and breathing not knowing where life will take me. I am not the type of person who thrives on having a plan, maybe because I am spontaneous.

Have you ever felt at one point or another that you want to be alone and do whatever you like without people judging you? Me, a massive yes but it has gotten easy through the years when I didn’t care about what other people think of me. Another way that helped me find my own happy place is to find my sanctuary.

I’ve chosen my mind to be my sanctuary for its portability, of course. Our mind is the starting point of all the thoughts we are having. But a tangible sanctuary would be my bedroom. Of all the rooms inside the house, the bedroom deserves much respect (just like the toilet) for the special reason that we put ourselves to rest in that special spot. It doesn’t have to grandiose, but a clean bedroom conducive to rest and sleep will do. In my bedroom, that is where my artworks start to happen and my writings come to life.

Other ways to find your sanctuary is to know what you like and what you think would be helpful or beneficial to you now and in the future. For example, if travelling feeds your soul, maybe your sanctuary is in other places. Others find comfort in nature, in the company of friends, in helping other people, in reading a good book, in writing, in music and art, in solitude, among others. When we find our sanctuary, that is when we begin to perform our best. If not the best, at least it is the beginning of something extraordinary. 🙂




A Week in the Life Series of a Lurker (will launch soon)

Referring myself as the lurker because I run this blog is pathetic and corny. But for now, forgive me at that. 😀 It is a general term that I use to describe myself. Although I am not associating myself with my job status, I’d rather consider myself a lurker. I do not want to refer myself as someone specific (e.g. writer, worker or whatever). All of us are lurkers in our own right, the only difference is the experiences we have and the adventures and journeys we choose to embark on. Other than that, I think it is safe to say that we are in the same boat. 🙂

A typical day of my life is a day where I eat, take a bath, read some stuff online and feast on some news, chat with friends and colleagues, do my job and do some errands if there are any. See, I am just like all of you there, doing what most people do. However, in the succeeding posts for this A Week in the Life series, I’d tell you what I do on a normal basis (boring, eh?) with a twist — things I’ve learned and what I find funny with some facts that I also do not know of before. I’d keep the posts succinct so you won’t be bored reading long posts that seem to be never ending.

Note: I would also like to apologize because my English is not superb. If I am able to convey my thoughts and you understand it, thank you very much. I am also open to criticisms so please keep it coming. I have developed a thick skin already and I am used to accept such bad or rude comments — it is how we perceive it that matters. Please do comment and let me know what you want more to be discussed and read about in my blog. Thank you to those peeps who sent me comments. I really appreciate it. Have a happiest V-day everyone! ❤

Functional Gifts

Even if there is no occasion, I still love giving gifts or cool stuff to people, especially to friends and family. Some may mistake that such gesture is show-off or over the top but if done with love, care and effort, the gifts would be genuine on its own. Around 18:00, I typed functional gifts in the search box and browsed through the links. Countless choices of things and other related topics are displayed. To my amusement, until now I cannot decide what to buy! Time check, it’s already 23:03! 🙂

If all else fails and you are too busy to buy them gifts, give them a gift certificate or a free meal. Above all, we could just offer these wonderful people a help, favor, prayer, hug or a sweet smile. While those gifts may be free of charge, brightening up someone else’s day is definitely priceless. A funny photo of you would not hurt or a surprise getaway would be undeniably awesome! Indulge!

P.S. It was my first time ordering a gift online and sending it to an old friend from a very faraway land. Delivery time is two weeks. I am more excited than my friend I think (since I love first times!)… hmm.. 🙂 I just hope these friends are not reading this post. 😀

As for me, I treat myself to good food (since I’m a sloth and don’t have to cook) and music from iTunes. Should I list my wish list here? Hahaha! 😀 Music check, it’s What You Wanted by One Republic.

How about you, what gifts or treats would you like to receive? A new job perhaps? Nah, I’m just kidding. 😀

* Daily Prompt: Google and Rescue Operation


You have her, I have him.

You love me, I love you, too.

It’s sad but true.

Daily Prompt: Sad But True


I smile like

Never before

Could not help but

Remember the once sad

Emotions that have gone by

Delight and excitement fill my

Imagination with an intense

Belief that life is

Love and it is

Everything I have hoped for.


* Daily Post: Supercalifragilisticexpialidocious

So I Pray and Maybe Eat and Love Sometimes or Whatever

Note: To my atheist friends, I respect what you have to say about this post. However, I still request you to read the numbered sentences. You might find something that could resonate with your thoughts. At least, somehow. 🙂

Before reading this, let us be silent for several minutes. Start by thanking God then continue praying to your heart’s desire.

For my introduction, this is what I have to say –  I am not religious but I am spiritual. It is just ME, my PRAYER and my GOD. Please allow me to share with you my journey – as an individual and as a pilgrim of the world.

Praying is like eating to me, it is crucial to my growth as I explore and learn about my spirituality. I keep on searching for ways to know myself and God for ages. Last August was an opportune time for me to attend an ‘Encounter with God Retreat.’ The last retreat I attended was way back 2003. I rarely attend retreats but there’s a jolt inside me telling me that I should. After that wonderful event, I have found a bit of serenity. I thanked God for making me feel that magical jolt.

Apparently, I always try to find balance just like the Yin and Yang. I see myself searching for the kind of balance that would make my life turn 360 degrees. It is in this stage that I started to pray more often than what I used to. I have read the Bible and the books pertaining to that matter until I found Elizabeth Gilbert’s ‘Eat Pray Love.’ Her mentor, Ketut Liyer, enlightens us with his words of wisdom: To find the balance that you want, this is what you must do. You must keep your feet grounded so firmly on the earth that it’s like you have four legs, instead of two. That way, you can stay in the world. But you must stop looking at the world through your head. You must look through your heart, instead. That way, you will know God. Such comforting words confirmed my thoughts and convictions that I should continue my soul searching.

In my constant search to know myself more and to learn other things about God, I have known the following:

  1. Love and accept yourself.
  2. Be grateful with what you are given.
  3. Be yourself.
  4. Learn to love solace and find peace in solitude.
  5. It is hard but we should forgive those people who have wronged us. We should also forgive ourselves, too.
  6. Take time to be silent. Silence makes us think and reflect more.
  7. When confused and undecided, be still and pray.
  8. Practice not to worry too much.
  9. Value the non-negotiable blessings in life like family and friends. Although work is important, our work will not take care of us in the long haul.
  10. Know God.

To date, 2010 (and now, 2013) is my most prayerful and busiest year. Whenever I do something, I pray. The act of praying, if correlated with correct thinking, can really do wonders to our lives. It all starts with having a strong mindset and ardent will to change and make things happen.

I also became an agnostic. After my discernment and constant prayers, I am back to normal again. (Normal is subjective so I won’t elaborate further.) That is the time that I have proven that I can be ‘still’ without having to worry about my tomorrows. Knowing that we have a loving God makes all the difference. It gives me peace of mind which in turn brings gladness to my heart and fulfilment to my soul. My faith in Him definitely moves me.

It is only NOW that I can finally say I am living my life. I have died and have been renewed by accepting God in my life. I am starting to live my dream. I am no longer worried of the adversities that are yet to come because I know that I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me (Philippians 4:13). I have made my own Yin and Yang in a rational way: Good > Bad = Balance. I believe that good must outlive the bad in order to achieve balance. Another equation for a happy and fulfilled life is this: EAT heartily, PRAY solemnly and LOVE unconditionally.

* Daily Prompt: Imitation/Flattery

The Wind

My eyes cannot see

The breeze

But its touch

I can feel

Its blow

I can hear

And my nose can smell

The vibe it brings

But I still cannot

Hold or grasp it

It vanishes

And escapes

Right through me.

Daily Prompt: Bloggers, Unplugged